LESSONS
FROM MUM
Dear Mum
I want you to know that you are an amazing lady. As a woman it is more obvious now than when I was a little girl. I always thought your life’s ambition was to make my life hard. I was wrong. It was to make me a strong woman just as you are and even more. So many things I see when I look back and didn’t make sense now make so much sense.
How often I have misunderstood you and what you were trying to do and how often I resented your correction and thought you had a backward way of thinking. That you were trying to prevent me from having the fun you had when you were my age.
When you told
me to help out with the chores and I just felt that since we had a house help that
was her purpose there and it was unfair for me to do something she was being
paid to do. Little did I know you were preparing me in the skills of being a
home maker and actually learn to look after myself. When you gave her the time
off, you were giving her time to be with her own family and with her children
who always miss her and barely saw her and all I thought about is how
inconvenienced I was that I now had to take on her job. I didn’t realize I took
it for granted that you were always around when I needed you and her kids were
actually growing up without their mum so she could give them the best life she
could afford to.
When you were
at work how glad I was that I had freedom to do whatever it is I wanted without
restrictions and was mad when you were on leave because it meant you would
always be home spending time with us. How naïve I was and took your presence
for granted. How naïve I was not to realize that you could have used your leave
days to go off on a holiday but you chose to spend more quality time with me.
When you
insisted on buying us more fruits and vegetables and eating a well home cooked
meal than eating out and eating candy and fast food for the sake of our health.
How I’d complain about how other parents bought their kids all that fast food
and we ate it rarely. I didn’t notice the fact that we seldom got sick because
of good nutrition that developed into the healthy eating habits I have now. I took
for granted that in the process I learnt to cook well balanced food and the
value of eating a home cooked meal with family, not to mention the money you
get to save by budgeting for groceries.
When you
insisted that there were restrictions on watching television and made us read
so many books during the holidays. I felt so short changed when I would meet my
classmates and they would discuss all the shows they were allowed to watch and
how unfair I felt that I was just stuck reading books and studying. Little did I
know the discipline I developed on prioritizing what was important and the
value of studying and hard work.
When you would
tactfully mention that you disapproved of some of my friends and how I would be
so offended feeling you barely knew them. The truth is you could see that they
were not being genuine or they were a negative influence on me and you were
just looking out for me. Now some of those friends are not even in my life and
I know why but at that time the most important relationships were that of friends
and suddenly now it is family, and the friends who become close enough to be
family.
There are so
many lessons and there is no way I can mention them all now. My favorite one of
all is that you learnt to trust God and I saw you grow in trusting Him daily.
When there was no money for fees you knew He would come through, when the
groceries ran out you knew He would provide, when we got sick you knew He would
heal us, when we doubted our abilities you knew He would make us great. There
was no time you showed us that God would not come through for us, even if you
sometimes battled with doubt. However the faith you had, even as small as a mustard
seed was enough to keep us going through those difficult time. Reflecting back I
can see how your faith grew with every answered prayer and how it made you become
a better mother. You became more and more the woman God wanted you to be and
grew in love and patience. I would be truly blessed to be half the woman you
are but knowing you expect me to be even more than that. I know I will because
I had such a wonderful teacher.
HAPPY MOTHERS
DAY
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