WAITING
FOR LOVE
I recently
realized that I wait a lot and I am not sure if that is a good thing but I do.
The thing I wait most on is love. I have started to wonder if it is me who is
not recognizing it or am not paying attention.
Either way I
read this article that made me realize I am not the only one waiting.
Don’t get me
wrong. I think we all wait for love. Maybe in different ways but we do.
Not just
romantic love but it depends on how you view love.
I realize
that a lot of the time it is easier for me to accept my faults when pointed out
to me and not compliments. I have grown up in an environment where what you do
is just a stepping stone to better things so you are never really allowed to
celebrate an achievement for very long because more is expected of you.
That is not a
bad thing but it make you live life always in transition and never in the
moment.
Anyways let
me address romantic love for this article. I realized one thing about my interaction
with men. I am always waiting for them to step up.
I am not sure
if I am having unrealistic expectations or its basically that we are wired
differently but I get so disappointed that I am starting to think it is normal
for them not to.
I wonder what
it is most of the time. If fear of failure and rejection really that bad that
one would not want to take the step.
Isn’t love
about risk just as much as it is about gain?
We all take
risks for things we love and people we love. Sometimes we are not even sure we
will get the love back. I do believe women take a higher risk in love because even
when they do not get it back they are at least glad they gave it a shot. Men
are taking less and less risk and are more content living in an less than ideal
situation or life then complain later that there are no good women out there.
The truth is
good women so to speak are there in plenty. They are made. They come out when
they feel secure. And they are waiting for the guy who would risk love for
them. Women crave security and when a woman is secure she can conquer the world
and would do anything for her man.
I may be
wrong but for me that is how I am wired. I would not put myself in a position
of being with someone who will only take a risk or make a move when it suits
them. I am also taking a risk. Relationships are hard enough as it is that
putting myself in a position with someone who is always second guessing themselves
is not very helpful.
It goes for
me as well. I would not keep a guy second guessing their position with me
because I am not sure of what I want, it wouldn’t be fair.
My post today
is all over the place. I guess I just wanted to let this out there, so hope it
makes some kind of sense.
My point is I
will wait for the right kind of love where there is some sacrifice and work
involved from both parties. This is too much of a big deal to leave it to
chance or give in to pressures of life.
It will not
be perfect because it is only God Who has that kind of love but it should be
sacrificial.
Lets start
loving more. It is a verb, meaning action is involved. Start living
Check out
this amazing article I read as well especially for the ladies a new perspective on waiting what-if-your-boaz-is-waiting-on-you
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